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in. Hosting sex parties is hard because:. Your party is who you know and who knows and trusts you. Trust may be the most important quality of all, rivaled only by taste. These challenges can be overcome but th e y are real. The current equilibrium exists the way it does for a reason. To host a party you need trust. To get people who trust each other and youyou need to vet them and vice-versa.

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There is no shortcut, and a would-be host has to find and choose people I can host for sex are, among other things, open-minded, generative, lusty, reasonably attractive, reasonably like to show up, disease-free, supportive, and so on. Hosts especially need couples and couples are the foundation of good parties. A male-female couple keeps the ratio pretty even, and for most parties an even gender ratio is good. Invite too many single girls and a lot of them will be stuck on the sidelines having a girl-chat clam jam instead of getting fucked like they want.

Most girls also want to be approached rather than doing the approaching. Plus, if there are too many girls eventually the guys will run out of steam and be too knackered for sex. While couples form the base of the party, singles are good too. Single and mentally stable women are, for obvious reasons, rarely problems. Single guys who have been vetted are okay. Most parties also have a mixture of experienced couples and novices. A party full of novices is unlikely to happen or work correctly because all those novices will be too nervous to party or too nervous to gather all in place or just unwilling or unable to make a first move.

With sex parties, like with sex itself and many other things, everyone has a first time, and first timers should be encouraged. A party with a ton of novices may devolve into couples fighting, bickering, or leaving. Sex parties die if anyone is coerced and thrive to the extent that people are open to choose their own adventures. We do. But we have some undefined-but-real vibe and aesthetic standards. Aesthetics and vibe matter, and you can imagine why if you imagine what other people want, especially for what amounts to casual sex and friends with benefits.

Besides aesthetics, what do you want in couples? A bunch of stuff. One looks for generative, giving people who want to give and receive pleasure. One needs people who will own their yesses and their nos. People who are:. Given the reality of STIs, general responsibility and health responsibility are important. Also, some people express a sexuality that is wounding or destructive rather than generative.

No filtering process is perfect and an overly aggressive policy will often lead to sterile, boring, or repetitive party. In our experience, good parties have a core of people who know and like each other along with a reasonable influx of fresh friends.

I co-host with another person who we trust and who has interests and ethics similar to ours. But my friend and I tend to move in circles that are different enough that we meet different people and different kinds of people in different circumstances.

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Lots of people justifiably want to just show up at a sex party to fuck and be fucked. Totally makes sense. But someone, somewhere, has to make the fucking happen. Someone has to set the right tone. Someone has to make sure the rules are respected. A sex party rarely happens spontaneously, on its own. Costs must be paid in terms of time or money. Everyone pays, one way or another. Notice how almost everything above is about people. Sex parties are all about people.

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If you want to start from nowhere you can try sex clubs in your city, online dating through sites like Swinglifestyle, Kasidie, KillingKittens. Lots of groups have low-stakes munches where people get together for talk and flirting without the expectation of sex.

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OkCupid and similar sites are now supposedly offering polyamorous and kinky options. Feeld is supposed to be Tinder for threesomes and moresomes. But sex clubs have the usual challenges and online dating for three or more can be as hard as online dating of any other caliber.

Online dating has an adverse selection problem in which the best people are often claimed quickly or find like-minded people rapidly, while the worst are often spamming thousands of low-quality approaches. Many parties are invite-only. You have to know someone who knows someone.

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Once a host has the people, venue should be pretty easy. When we throw parties we tell people to bring the food and drink they like and they think others will like if you want someone else to take of that for you, pay for it. More on that later too. Red and pink hues are more flattering than white or blue hues and are especially flattering to women, many of whom are conscious of lighting.

People get sick or get periods or breakup or just make garden-variety excuses. The less well you know someone, the greater the likelihood of flaking. This is one of the many reasons why Internet-only parties with no money involved rarely work out.

We do very little online dating now though we sometimes meet couples via Reddit or Tumblr and a re more likely to tell other couples to meet us at a party or event. Many people also come to parties for the first time because a close, trusted friends invites them. The more people a host knows, the more second- third- and even fourth-order connections theyhave. Friends of ours will bring and vouch for their friends. Good luck. If you have none, start building now. This is a repository for our writing about sexuality, non-monogamy, and sex positivity; it may be NSFW.

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