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The book, titled The Wild Oats Projecttouches on issues that most of us hold dear: love, marriage, sex, children, fidelity. As a protagonist, I was far from perfect. As a writer, I struggled as best I could to tell the raw truth about how these issues played out in my life. I owned up to feelings of rebellion Seeking old whore anger and described in detail how I pursued sexual liberation in midlife. When you write a book about sex, you can expect a reaction.

Social media, of course, can both intensify the reaction and lower the level of discourse. A small sampling of the comments I received:. By no means was I alone. But the pattern of misogynists attacking a woman who has spoken up too boldly, either about sexism or sex itself, proved true in my case. While an almost equal of men Seeking old whore women responded via social media orthe violently shaming messages—ones that included name-calling, obscenities, or wishes for my harm—were almost exclusively from men.

Trollop, skank-ass, cum dumpster. These florid alternatives were outed by the oft-repeated whorewhich itself was outed by the perennial favorite: slut. The dictionary definition of slut is surprisingly benign:. The more we use it in conversation and humor and art, the more we strip it of harm.

Or to adult women of color who have historically been hypersexualized. Nor does this privilege extend to the vast s of women who live in cultures that legally constrain what they wear, whom they speak to, where they go, how much schooling they receive, all in a Draconian effort to control their sexuality.

But even I, someone who walked straight into the fire by writing a sex memoir, was shocked by the emotional gap between a friend or lover using the term playfully and a strange man slinging it at me with malice. Immediately, the history was called up, the genetic memory aroused. Each new message was a punch to the gut: My breath caught, my hands went cold, a tingling spread beneath my skin.

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The tone turned Biblical, implying outcasts and witches, diseases and hellfire. How dare I think I could own my sexuality, break from convention, or explore dark themes? My body was not my own territory with which to experiment; it was theirs, and they had arrived to plant their flags. But slut-shaming only succeeds if it alters behavior. Its primary corrective purpose is to corral a woman back into line, to shock her with such a jolt that she stops doing things that trouble others. After the presidential blowjob. After the sex tape. After the onstage twerking, or the provocative article.

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Notice how the very use of the word in such instances says more about the speaker than the target. More immediately, though, some of their punches landed. I watched the familiar internal dance wherein anger that has nowhere to go twists back on itself. I intentionally over-ate, relishing the comfort of both food and extra flesh.

My mind chatter turned caustic about the most mundane things: how stupid to not get the cheaper airfare, what an idiot I am. I reflexively turned to my nearest male relative for protection even as a mental voice sneered at me for doing so. My brother wrote back to say yes, of course I could live with him.

He rhetorically asked how many people would come out looking perfect if they exposed their entire relationship history on paper. If it does, cut that shit out, now. I tried. I put it off for months. As I blocked a few, a quick glance at their profile s produced a deep sadness in me—for them. In quieter moments I even felt like I could sense the terror below their rage, a reflexive shrinking Seeking old whore chaos that I recognized in myself: If women pursue sexual freedom, where do we all end up?

What happens to the family, to children, to society, to love?

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I wondered how many of these guys were husbands, fathers, men with their own cacophonous appetites, men with something to lose. Or, worse still, what if they were men with nothing Seeking old whore lose? I debated trashing the file, deleting the Twitter. But what if instead of feeding the trolls, I let them feed me? All you have to do is dance or dress a certain way, state an opinion too loudly, talk about tampons or video games. What my mind kept going over was the image of shit dripping down my leg, and making my husband cry.

I kept flashing forward to the shit and backward to the tears. I had caused those tears. Eloquent letters from readers helped me parse out this important difference, the line between violent shaming and real moral debate. In addition to letters of thanks from people going through a similar marital crisis, many readers wrote considered paragraphs about commitment, desire, sacrifice. It illustrated the huge gap between people who could respectfully communicate their reactions and opinions versus those who could only project hate onto the messenger.

We all make mistakes. Much of literature—addiction stories, divorce stories, coming-of-age stories—not to mention songwriting and filmmaking, is a recounting of those mistakes.

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In both art and real life, men are allowed the freedom to err, to be complicated. Tony Soprano and Walter White can be both murderers and loving fathers. Bill Clinton can be a womanizer and a great politician. Several of my own artistic heroes have disastrous track records as far as fidelity goes: Robert Plant, Leonard Cohen, Rainer Maria Rilke.

We assume great men will give in to lust. Freedom is freedom. Pop culture has begun offering up portrayals of women living out messy arcs: nurses stealing drugssuburban moms dealing drugswhole prisons of women doing timecomedic heroines using men for sex. But these are, for the most part, fictional. The next step is to stop freaking out every time a Seeking old whore does what men have been doing for ages.

Feminism is not about moral perfection. Neither my decision to open up my marriage nor to write about it were intended as feminist statements. And when I began writing about it years later, I was thinking of capturing on paper the marital and midlife dilemmas I saw playing out in many lives beyond my own. But on closer inspection, what is this wall made of? Thoughts and words. Patriarchy has, for the most part here in the West, been written out of the code of law.

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It is currently dying a slow—sometimes excruciatingly slow—death in the realms of government, commerce, and art. I was surprised by how quickly slut-shaming influenced my mood, my confidence, my daily habits, my relationships. But it passed. It is not sustainable. By embracing the experience, I mean to neither ignore them nor speak for them. Its lopsided progress happens in fits and starts. Some of us lobby Congress and some forge non-traditional careers and some make art and others simply survive. Sometimes we need to retreat and lick our wounds while others take up the slack.

Because in the long run, what choice do we have but transcendence? Dress modestly? Curtail our language and artistic expression and sexual choices? Appealing to the rational masses to put a stop to it makes you dependent on their response, which in turn often depends on how the social tide is turning that day, how much the cruel world has already taxed their empathy. We have the vote, birth control, Seeking old whore, and access to employment.

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